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ETHNICITY: Korean

"People usually perceive me as Korean or Chinese. There was a point in time when I got really tan in the summer and people thought I was Southeast Asian, which kind of shows you how subjective race is - that people’s perception of you change just by how much time you spend in the sun."

"To me, it’s frustrating how often people conflate Asian ethnicities. Korean people are not the same as Chinese people. The food is different, the culture is different, the norms are different. Stop saying that we’re the same and ignoring the different histories and influences just because we might phenotypically look the same. Assuming all Asian people look the same sets a dangerous precedent and has implications not only for East Asians, but also for Southeast Asians, and other Asians that feel the effects of the model minority myth."

"I think the importance of outward appearances and the insane strive for an 'achievable' perfection  in Korea has also been extremely frustrating for me. There’s always this constant pressure to look perfect, be tall and eat well, but still be thin.  To not be too tan, have big eyes and a thin nose. To have perfect skin without moles or acne. To do well in school and always be in the moral right. To excel in everything that you do and not just in academics. To obey your parents and show a good relationship to everyone around you. I could go on forever, honestly. And if you don't meet any of these expectations, it's on you - it's your fault. Yes, it reflects back on your family, and people will say your parents raised you badly, but ultimately, it really is on you. To your parents and family, it's on you. The focus and emphasis on outward appearances puts an unbelievable pressure on a person."